Some Advice for Folks Coming Out to Their Evangelical Parents


This article was featured in the Huffington Post’s “Religion” and “Queer Voices” section.

Before you click the link below and head over to the post, I want to add a personal perspective.

I’m honored to have people from the Evangelical and Gay communities who follow this blog, and who’ve been part of some great discussions.

I’m heartbroken however about the war between these two very huge, very influential cross sections of our world.  Both groups claim to be loving, accepting, inclusive, etc.  The hatred here frightens me.

I’ve personally decided to have a voice, best I can, in the Gay community.  I’ll write posts, make friends, build bridges, do whatever I can to say I love them and that I consider them equals.

If you’re Evangelical, you might read this post and think “He’s one of us?  Where’s the part about homosexuality being a sin?”  It’s not in there.  That’s not what this post is about.  I’m not aware of any Biblical mandate that tells me every time I try to help I have to also condemn their behavior.

I know many of you consider homosexuality to be a sin on par with something like rape or child abuse, which is why you feel the morality issue is always the first order of business.  I would too if I held that perspective.

Biblically speaking, there’s nothing wrong with a Gay person, nothing beyond what’s also wrong with the rest of us (stole that from Jenn Hatmaker).

To my Gay friends I’ll say it again.  I’m sorry for how my Evangelical brothers and sisters deal with this issue. Please have patience with them.  Allow them to think the way they think, love them, forgive them. Don’t tolerate bigoted behavior.  If you have the courage, make friends with a few.  They’re not all bad.  Some are downright amazing.

All that said, here’s the link.